Why Do Bullies Act That Way?
Some bullies are looking for attention. They might think bullying is a way to be popular or to get what they want. Most bullies are trying to make themselves feel more important. When they pick on someone else, it can make them feel big and powerful.
Some bullies come from families where everyone is angry and shouting all the time. They may think that being angry, calling names, and pushing people around is a normal way to act. Some bullies are copying what they’ve seen someone else do. Some have been bullied themselves.
Most bullies don’t understand or care about the feelings of others.
Getting a big reaction out of someone can make bullies feel like they have the power they want.
…if someone is bullying you? Our advice falls into two categories: preventing a run-in with the bully, and what to do if you end up face-to-face with the bully.
Preventing a Run-In With a Bully
Don’t give the bully a chance. As much as you can, avoid the bully.
Stand tall and be brave.
Feel good about you. Nobody’s perfect, but what can you do to look and feel your best.
Get a buddy…
…Ignore the bully. If you can, try your best to ignore the bully’s threats. Pretend you don’t hear…Acting as if you don’t notice and don’t care is like giving no reaction at all, and this just might stop a bully’s behavior.
Stand up for yourself. Pretend to feel really brave and confident…Don’t bully back. Don’t hit, kick, or push back to deal with someone bullying you or your friends. Fighting back just satisfies a bully…
Don’t show your feelings. Plan ahead. How can you stop yourself from getting angry or showing you’re upset? Try distracting yourself…o keep your mind occupied until you are out of the situation and somewhere safe where you can show your feelings.
…bullying is wrong and it helps if everyone who gets bullied or sees someone being bullied speaks up.
In the end, most bullies wind up in trouble. If they keep acting mean and hurtful, sooner or later they may have only a few friends left — usually other kids who are just like them. The power they wanted slips away fast.
Some people who bully blame others.Some people who bully realize that they don’t get the respect they want by threatening others. They may have thought that bullying would make them popular, but they soon find out that other people just think of them as trouble-making losers.
Bullies can change if they learn to use their power in positive ways. In the end, whether bullies decide to change their ways is up to them.
…no one needs to put up with a bully’s behavior.
Everyone has the right to feel safe, and being bullied makes people feel unsafe.